Love
is something so simple, but also something really complex. It is
something that can make us really happy, but, without a doubt, it can
also make us suffer.
There
are unhealthy relationships that cause us more sadness,
disappointment and pain than happiness and joy. But for a reason, we
tie ourselves to the relationship. We try over and over to try again,
we hold on to words and actions that no longer have anything to do
with reality or even with the person we love. We end up so confused
and lost in our imagination and we don't know what to do.
Its
never a bad thing to love someone with all your heart, to fight for
that love and to want things to work out. What is bad, is for the
feelings not to be mutual and you just hang on by a thread in case
that person decides to change there feelings and to suddenly love you
as much as you love them.
It
is true that who does not put cash on the table, doesn't win, but
sometimes risking everything for a complicated relationship just
isn't worth it. “Give everything expecting nothing in return” sounds
like a bit of a risky theory to me, because, although you fight all
you can for what you feel, if the other person doesn't contribute, it
will all burn down. If that person truly loved you, they wouldn't
doubt proving it and you wouldn't have to fight.
Maybe
there was a time when that person loved you, but something happened
along the road, there became a point where that thread broke and the
magic escaped. That doesn't make someone a bad person and it doesn't
give them the blame. The love just ended.
On
the other hand, there are people that just simply aren't worth it,
let alone worth your love or your time, those people who are always
disappointed because their expectations aren't real, or those who
live in the past rather than the present. There are also insecure
people who need constant reassurance so they know they are loved and
there are also frustrated people who are unhappy with their lives so
they try and control their partners happiness until they lose
freedom. This is without mentioning the untruthful people, those who
don't know how to appreciate the love and the trust of the people who
truly love them.
True
love fills us with power and happiness to fight, but it is
devastating to not feel loved, when that person isn't willing
to give it a try, when they won't change their attitude and won't do
what they promise. Then, without a doubt, comes the question that we
all have, that comes from the bottom of our soul and needs an answer
“Is it worth it?”
Along
with it comes an answer that makes you look towards yourself, respect
yourself and value yourself and more than anything, love yourself,
because, if you can't do that, nobody else can. If you manage
to see all the good in yourself and you decide to fight for yourself
first, you will find an exit to the right answer.
I
know how hard it is to leave someone you love, especially when you
get excited about things that never happened but you need to accept
it, be strong, and understand that sometimes it is better to walk
away than to carry on wasting time on people who don't love you nor
need you. You are worth so much, yet you are sat around waiting for a
call, a message, or just waiting to find out if they genuinely love
you or they are only killing time.
Nobody
deserves less, and nobody deserves to suffer over someone who doesn't
care about them. Sadly, you have to go through it to know it, but it
is just another life lesson and a great opportunity to strengthen
your self-love. It is time to wave goodbye to all the tears you have
shed and although I can't guarantee the road will be easy, or there
won't be any rocks in the way, I can guarantee that you deserve
happiness, so don't ever forget that.
Don't
waste your life nor your time on something that doesn't make you grow
as a person. Don't let anybody take that smile off your face because
it is time to live your life
and to cherish every second.
